I have this problem where I can't do something if everyone is doing it. Or I can't like something if everyone else likes it. For example, I can't read, Girl, Wash Your Face because everyone has read it, even though I know there is likely some valuable insights in it. Also, I was my face pretty regularly, so I don't feel like that advice applies to me.
Same thing goes for New Year's resolutions. I just cannot make a resolution, because that's what people do in the new year. BUT I also can't not make a resolution, because it's also popular to think resolutions are dumb. See? It's maddening.
So this year, on January 1st, my husband and I sat down and made some goals for the year. Here's the process we went through and what it's looked like since. (Yes. It's barely mid-January. So that's not saying much.)
1. HOPES AND ROUTINES, NOT EXPECTATIONS AND RESOLUTIONS
Okay, I'm not super resolute or resolved. I'm kind of a 'if it's not working, let's figure something else out' type of lady. Therefore, making a resolution (only to fail and then give it up) doesn't really work for me. Instead, we decided to think of some hopes or goals we had for the year, and then tried to focus on the types of habits or routines that would help achieve those goals.
2. FIVE MINUTES OF FREE WRITING
We set the phone timer for five minutes and each wrote (separately) hopes and goals we had for the year. Some things I wrote: sell 100 DIY Bride Guides this year, have a kid-free office day once a week even on weeks when I don't have weddings, go on two overnights with Taylor this year (a goal because we will have a two year old and an infant, but momma needs her solo time with papa), and pray more with Taylor for our children